Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Change # 6 Genuine Gratitude for Birth Professionals

Good Morning Peeps!

When we think of changing birth in our culture, most of us tend to think of informing women and stopping or reversing the escalating use of medical and surgical interventions in pregnancy and birth. This narrow vision for change pits two groups against each other; it might even be feeding an image of victims and oppressors. And, instead of cultivating real change and a collective healing, the opposing sides dig their heels in deeper to justify their stance.

Have you ever complained or felt that birth people "objectify" pregnant women, that they don't see or hear the moms?

You can change birth in our culture this week!

Look around at birth professionals in your circle or community. when you notice you have "objectified" a medical profession or professional, take a moment to deconstruct your assumption. Really "see" them as human beings. Perhaps really listen to what they are saying with beginner's ears. Feel their positive intention, even if you don't agree with their management or decisions.

Changing birth in our culture is not always about a fight or being right--e.g., "Lookie here, new research proves I'm right!" It's also about being human, being kind.

At least once this week, extend GENUINE gratitude to, or an acknowledgment of, a birth professional in your circle. It might be someone who:
* is "just doing his or her job,"
* took extra time with a patient,
* burned out,
* or even someone who is getting sued.

Perhaps healing begins by each of us seeing everyone and everything out there as a reflection of our own mind. When we have a change of mind, we have a change of heart. Change begins within and ripples outward.

Feel free to post how you changed birth in our culture this week.


  1. Yes! Thank you Pam, for writing these important words! I really believe this is the way toward authentic and long-term change.

    This reminds me of the Nonviolent Communication movement's 10 Steps to Peace:

  2. Thanks to what I have learned through BFW, I can truly take in the words you are saying. The anger I once felt has been transformed and along with inner strength I have garnered to meet injustices that are a part of life, that strength is accompanied (and balanced) with a large dose of compassion. Thank you for the reminder to step out with my best foot -- gratitude.